Frequently Asked Questions

Answers to the questions we get asked the most

No one can say with certainty when is the right time to come to a meeting. Sometimes family members come shortly after the child has died while other times they wait longer. Some people who attend shortly after the child’s death may decide not to come back until they’re more ready. This is a personal decision.

How do I know if it’s too soon after my child’s death to attend?

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Do I need a reservation before I come to a meeting?

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No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it.

Also, there is never a charge to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapters rely on voluntary donations from members, friends, and the community at large.

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If I go to a meeting, will I have to talk?

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No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.

I notice the meeting is in a church. Do I have to belong to a church to attend?

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TCF has no religious affiliation. TCF Marin meets in the sanctuary of a church; we pull chairs together into a circle.

You will find TCF members are very tolerant of any views. After the death of a child, many priorities, as well as values, change.

My spouse won’t come with me. Can I come alone?

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Yes. We all grieve differently and your spouse or significant other may not be ready to take part just yet . . . or ever.

Can I bring a friend with me the first time for support?

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Of course, you can bring a friend, but we ask that they, as well as all members, respect each other’s privacy. It is important for us to be able to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will be respected.